Mar 26, 2011

10 Things You Should Never Say to a Mom of Twins

I came across a great article about what you shouldn't say to a working mom or a stay at home mom. You can see the list at Redbook magazine here and here. I loved all the things on both lists. I hate some of the comments I get from other moms and I don't think they realize how hurtful and annoying they can be.

So as I was talking about the list with my husband and I decided to make a list about twins. For some reason when you have three little kids that include twins, people feel the need to comment on your life. On Wednesday we were taking a family walk when a man stopped his car and this conversation unfortunately took place.

Rude Stranger-Are you done having kids?
Rude Stranger-Are you done having kids? You have three you know.
Me-Oh you just never know. (While thinking how the *@*@ is it any of your business? And did you really feel the need to stop your car for this conversation??????????)

Now this is not the first time someone has stopped me to comment on my family, and I know it wont be the last. Normally I'm just annoyed because I'm in a hurry, but sometimes the comments are just downright rude. Like the time someone told me that I should worry more about my carbon footprint than my selfish need to have children. Try to think before you speak lady and make sure you duck out of my size 9 footprint!
So here is my list. (And my thoughts behind the comments)

10 Things You Should Never Say to a Mom of Twins.
  1. Do twins run in your family? (I know what you're really asking and it's none or your business.) Or it's evil twin are they natural? (No my kids are made from artificial ingredients. Again it's really none of your business.)
  2. My kids are 16 months apart, that's just like having twins. (No it's actually nothing like having twins.)
  3. You have your hands full. (Thanks for stopping me to tell me the obvious.)
  4. My brother's sister in law's cousin has twins. (Whoopee)
  5. Are your boy/girl twins identical? (Please go back to elementary school and relearn the definition of identical)
  6. And if your twins are identical-How do you tell them apart? (I asked my friends with identical twins for this thought-I look a them.)
  7. I don't know how you do it. (I don't have a choice.)
  8. You get this one if your twins are under the age of three-Are they twins? (No, I stole a kid out of the nursery because I really wanted a boy. I've actually said this a few times.)
  9. Are they yours? (No mom is my nickname.)
  10. Twins? UGH! I'm glad I'm not you. (Right back at you babe!)
Now if you're guilty of one of these things, it OK as long as you stop immediately. So did I miss any that should be in the top ten?


  1. Great post! You should submit your list to Redbook! I loved the SAHM list they published. How very true...

  2. are u kidding? people actually make comments like that to you? How rude. My hubs comes from a family of 6 I wonder what those people would think about that?!?

  3. Love the list, I've had most said to me!

    I've also had did you need IVF, which is your favourite, would you rather there had only been one and the one from a woman who so very nearly got a slap, can I borrow your hubby!!

    As if we don't have enough to deal with!

  4. The Redbook lists are great, but yours is better! ;)

  5. I've had several people say something along the lines of "since you had two, I guess you're done now". The bugs the heck out of me. Just because I was blessed to have two the first time automatically means I shouldn't have any more? People just don't know when to keep their mouth shut.

  6. Great list! It's amazing that people just don't care how private an issue may be!

    Marcy @ Life's Gristle

  7. People can be so rude! Great post.

  8. I can see where all those comments would be super annoying! Great post!
    I'm a new follower linking up from the blog hop! have a great rest of the weekend. :)
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  9. Thank you for swinging by 2 Against 1 and linking up to TGIF blog hop (Friday). Hope to see you again this week! Following back now.
    As a STAHM of twins you are bang on with this list!!! Or when other parents of twins basically tell you how hard it is and going to be. Um.. perhaps encouragement would be nice. Great post!!!

  10. ahhhh i love the rudeness of strangers! believe me i am well aquanted with that, i have a child with smith magenis syndrome and her behaviours bring the rude stranger crawling out of the woodwork on a regular basis! keep smiling xxx stopping by from the rdc linkup, my post is sometimes i daydream if you wanted to stop by xxx

  11. Ouch. I'm cringing here hoping I've never said any of these to anyone!

    The answer to "are they identical"- kind of genius!

  12. That is quite a list:) I get the "Are they yours?" question constantly, despite the fact that I now have three boys that look very much alike.

    Thank you for participating in last week’s Wednesday Window @ Frugality Is Free. I hope you’ll stop by to link up your favorite blog post this week as well.


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