May 13, 2011

Stop the Madness and the Sexualization of Girls

Please watch the video if you haven't already before reading my rant post.

Sexualization is defined as occurring when a person's value comes only from her/his sexual appeal or behavior, to the exclusion of other characteristics, and when a person is sexually objectified, e.g., made into a thing for another's sexual use.
I am so sick of parents blaming society and the media for the sexualization of girls. Wake up! You are the parent and you are in charge of your kid. When I see stories like the one above where a mom says “well all the other pageant moms are waxing their kids and giving them Botox so I have to do it too,” I want to punch them. Remember when you were a kid and your mom said “well if everyone jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?” This is a terrible justification of her behavior.
Then she tried to make it seem like this was her daughter’s idea and that she just hates her wrinkles. Really? No you think your 8 year old daughter needs Botox. Do you really think America is dumb enough to think your 8 year old thought up this idea? And an eight year old doesn't have wrinkles!!!! They shouldn’t even be thinking about something so superficial! Wise up, you are being a bad parent, which is something I don’t say lightly or often.
This story really makes me angry. This little girl is suffering emotionally and physically. I hope the authorities stop this from happening again.  I’m not saying take the kid away from her mom; just take the Botox away from the mom. And the waxing strips too!
I’m just adding it to the list of things/products that parents shouldn’t get for their kids. Right now you can buy the following for your sweet little 8 year old innocent girl. And parents, you should know better.
  • Shape-up shoes. That’s right; your little girls can tone her legs and bottom, just what she should be worried about
  • Thong underwear. This is so ridiculous that I feel like commenting is useless.
  • The nursing doll. Did you see the doll that came with a chest set up so your little 4 year old can nurse her doll? I think bottles for dolls is just fine and if a little girl wants to nurse her baby like mommy nurses her baby brother or sister, she can use her imagination. I have no problem with that, just the fake boobs my kid would need to wear with this toy.
  • T-shirts for girls as young as 5 that say flirt or sexy. (I’m getting fired up now.)
  • Sexy Halloween costumes. I’m sorry but why is this costume available for a 9 year old??? The sizing starts at tween not teen. Love the stripper shoes that your teenager or tween is supposed to wear with it.
Dragon Geisha Girl Costume

This is just the few things at the top of my list. Now I hate to break it to the parents out there, but we are to blame. If there wasn’t a market for these products, the companies wouldn’t make them. Period. End. Of. Story.
Now I’m aware that my oldest daughter is only 3 so I am not dealing with all the media images that a parent with an eight year old is dealing with. However, I think it starts at 3 with the princess crap, nursing dolls, and the Bratz dolls. So I am making an effort to delay the madness. Isabella wants everything Dora and Elmo and she hears the word no quite often. (I’m not made of money) The early lesson that I have learned is to try to keep her watching age appropriate shows so she sees age appropriate toys. But I know the battles over toys/clothes/make-up/pierced ears etc is coming and it will be hard not to give in.  But that doesn’t make me think I’ll be buying her thong underwear when she turns eight, or nine, or ten……… for that matter.
Am I the only one who is outraged?


  1. blog hopping...TOTALLY AGREE with you about the Botox and what a 9 yr should be doing! New follower...stop for a visit

  2. I am a new follower and found you blog hopping!

    My daughter is 16 years old and I could go on and on about this subject. I have learned alot through the years and maybe I will write a post on this subject too! I agree with you 100%.

    Moms have to remember that they are a daughter's first role model, then we have to TALK to our daughter's about what they are seeing and hearing!

    Your little Isabella sounds lucky to have you for her mommy!


  3. I totally agree with you. I am trying hard to keep my almost 7 year as innocent as I can. I want her to keep playing for as long as I can. It really helps that we don't have cabel TV. I do know however that with a five year difference between my girls it might be hard to keep my little one innocent for that long, but I will try.
    The sad thing is is that even though it is not as bad in Norway the problem is the same there.

  4. I 100% agree with all that you have said! My daughter often "feeds" her dolls (sometimes twin feeding, lol) but I would NEVER buy her something like this! Not only is it sexualisation, it's also just a waste of money. Children's imaginations are used less and less these days, toys are more literal and over-advertised. Roo has such a great imagination, buy getting her something like that I would feel I was dampening it somehow.
    Also, we have a goverment funded children's free-to-view television channel that is the only kid's channel on in our house, so we don't have to worry about constant ads for toys. We are pretty lucky to have something like that :)

    I am SO glad to find another mother that feels the same way I do!

  5. Oh, that news story is beyond nonsensical. Seriously? The pageant world is tough, huh? Then take your daughter out of it for goodness sake!

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  7. I saw this news story on facebook and was appalled. This is CRIMINAL. I think that the doctor and the mother should be brought up on charges!

  8. I agree, this is crazy. Absolutely nuts.

  9. Omg, I can't believe this! That is crazy what those mothers are doin!!

    I'm a new follower from the blog hop. Can't wait to look through your blog :) Have a great weekend!

  10. What!?!?! That's crazy! An 8 yr old with wrinkles..... SERIOUSLY!!

  11. Ugh, I hesitated to even watch or read this story because I knew it was going to make me angry! She's 8... she does not have wrinkles!! And doing it because 'other moms are doing it in the pageant world'... are you a child yourself... you can't make your own decisions when it comes to your child?! These pageant moms (and judges) need to wake up and realize they are harming these girls emotionally and mentally!!

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  13. Blog Hopping :) I totally agree with you. All of the things you listed are WAY to advanced for a young girl, or even a teen! It all boils down to the parents though. How else are these kids getting these things but from the parents. My daughter is almost 14, and I have never bought her anything that would be considered tacky and tasteless. And guess what? She shuns away from those kind of clothes and says they are trashy. It's all in how the parents set the limits on how a child dresses. Great blog subject, I'm a follower now. :)

  14. Ugh. Stories like this are so upsetting to me, too! You know, I feel the same way about really young kids getting cell phones, too.

    And you are right, WE are the problem! An 8 year old cannot get herself Botox or get an account with Verizon....

    Glad to know I am not alone, and thank you so much for linking up with Makes My Monday!

  15. I loved reading your thoughts. Did you hear they took her away from her Mom today?

    Thanks for linking up on my Super STALKER Sunday! I can't believe the response we have gotten again this week! :D If I wasn't already stalking you, I am now!

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  16. Hi - I agree with you. I remember the fuss over dress shoes that had a 1/4" "heel" on them when I was a kid! My step mom just thought that was terrible - life was coming to an end.

    I agree with the sexualization of girls that you are talking about. Personally I think I would just keep the TV off or as someone else said leave it on NETV (state funded educational channel here in Omaha). I'm so glad I don't have to deal with this - it's just so hard to see how people treat their kids and get them inappropriate clothing and toys. Thanks for the heads up and your wise words!

    Tina "the Book Lady"

  17. I am following you on GFC, Tw and FB and tweeted this for you (I don't see your StumbleUpon button) - I'm from the Keenly Kristin Stumble linky. =D Would love a Stumble back at:

    Thanks! Tina "The Book Lady"

  18. NO! You are NOT the only one...cause it makes me insane. This Botox broad (yeah, that's how you can tell I'm ticked off, because I said "broad" LOL) is NUTS. I can't tell you how many debates I've been in with people who thought it was extreme to take her daughter away! Really? They believe she bought Botox online, which means it could have been ANYTHING...not even real Botox (which is not healthy for an 8yo, in my opinion)...and she injected it into her kid! HELLO!!! This makes me nuts!

    Oh, yeah..I stumbled you, in the midst of my blood pressure going up. LOL. Would love if you could stumble me back:

    Thanks for linking up!
    Kristin :)

  19. I'm just floored that someone would actually do this to their child :( CRAZY and sad

    Stumbling this post from the Thursday hop! Please stumble across –

    Following you on GFC as well :)


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