Jun 12, 2011



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Welcome to Week 2 of "What I Love About Me!" hosted by Twins Plus One, Three Times the Fun and Twingle Mommy!

Here's how it works -
Write a post about what you love about yourself this week and then add it to the linky list below. This is intended to be a time and place for each of us to stop criticizing ourselves for a few minutes and actually remind ourselves of the characteristics we are proud to own. So go ahead, look in the mirror, and see yourself through your loved one's eyes. Notice the beauty first. Here's your place to shine!

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What I Love About Me.....

Tonight I love that I choose the high rode on Friday and set a good example for my kids, instead of yelling like I wanted to. As parents we want our children to have good morals, treat people with kindness, etc. And deep down we know we need to practice what we preach. This is not always easy. Allow me to explain.

On Friday I took the kids to the park. I took them to a tiny little park by the house because it's normally empty and I was in my pj's. There is nothing worse than going to the park when you're not dressed and all the other moms look like they just came from the salon right? Well my plan didn't go very well since there were two other moms there. I overheard mom A say that she was trying to induce labor using the old wives tales. Normally I'd keep my mouth shut but she was only 36 weeks pregnant.

So I opened my mouth and told her why having a preemie is not something you should try for. I told her from my own experiences about the NICU stays, the NICU costs, the different doctors a preemie sees after they leave the hospital, developmental delays, etc. I then told her about my son Mark that has cerebral palsy from being premature. I ended it with believe me, I know how uncomfortable you are but trust me, in the long run you want to keep that baby inside of you for as long as possible.

And that's when things got ugly. She started screaming and cussed me out. (And they say no good deed goes unpunished?) After she called my son retarded, I decided to walk away. There was no talking to this woman or staying at the park anymore. I blogged about this on Friday and the reaction I got was how could I just walk away?

That one is easy to explain, my kids. I thought I was being helpful but she clearly didn't want to hear it. Nothing I would say to her at that point would have helped the situation. Add to that Mark started crying the second she started yelling at me and Isabella got a worried look on her face. So I took the high road and walked away. It was really hard, but I know that I did the right thing.

It wasn't until I told the story to Brett that I realized that I just passed a parental teaching moment. We tell our kids how we want them to behave, but they are watching more than they are listening. I know that my kids are too small to remember this incident long term, but it taught me a good lesson. No matter how small they are, I need to lead by example.

So tonight I love that I decided to lead by example and do the right thing. I'm pretty proud of myself that I could ignore her insults and my desire to scream at her and do the right thing.

6 comments:

  1. You are absolutely right and I thank you for being an inspiration to me tonight. In all honesty, I probably would have walked away too, but I don't think it would have been for the right reason like you did. I just don't do well in confrontational situations. You're a very strong woman and I also love that about you! :)

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  2. Good for you for setting a good example. And shame on this other mom for setting a rotten one.

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  3. Bravo to you.
    Shame on her.
    Pray for her kids.

    Thank you for hosting. I’m a follower, and this hop is found on a page on my site that lists more than 250 hops, memes, and photo challenges… some for each day of the week. Check under the header for the link to that page. I’ve also just started a BlogFrog community that focuses on hops, carnivals, memes, and photo challenges. Go to http://theblogfrog.com/1504201 to visit & participate.
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  4. What an amazing gift you've given your children right there. Knowing that strength isnt just might. That you could have yelled back if you wished, but iNstead had the strength of conviction to know that you had done nothing wrong, that the other mum was rude and misinformed and that sometimes it's best to let things go.

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  5. stopping by via the bloghop. Any friend of Holly's is a friend of mine. :)

    I'm impressed that you walked away. I might have walked away until she insulted my baby.

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  6. I love this idea (the blog hope I mean)! I am looking forward to joining in :) I am also massively admiring you for walking away. So much easier said then done.

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