Oct 11, 2011

Why Moms Need to Take Time for Themselves

I went away for the weekend without my kids and husband and I didn't feel any guilt. Not even a little teeny tiny twinge of guilt. Quite frankly I think I deserve a weekend away. And for some reason, there seem to be lots of women that think a mom shouldn't go away and if she does, she should feel guilty. And that got me thinking.................

Why on Earth do women think it's a bad thing to take a little time for them self? And these are the same women who have husbands that take guys trips and they don't expect their husbands to feel guilty. So a Dad can take some time for himself but not a Mom?????

Why are women expected to stop being a person when they become a mom? Again, I just want to point out that men are not given that expectation.

Why do women feel the need to put their expectations and standards on other women? I don't really care why you would feel guilty about leaving your kids; just don't expect me to be exactly like you.

Look the bottom line is that I love being a mommy and a wife. But there is another person that I love being and her name is Allison. She's pretty awesome and I like to remember who she is occasionally. Allison sometimes gets lost in the role of wife and mother, which is why I take time for myself. Sometimes I get a pedicure and last weekend I went on a ladies retreat.

When I get away from my family, I recharge my batteries and I appreciate them more. I come back ready to hit the ground running. I think it's important to take some time to take care of yourself, mom or not. So if you don't believe me yet, here are a few more reasons.

When moms are happy, the whole family is happy.

stock vector : happy family holding hands and smiling

Have you ever snapped at your kids or husband when you're stressed and tired? I know I have and it's a terrible feeling later when you've calmed down a bit. When you take time for yourself your stress level goes down. A mom that is less stressed is happier and that reflects on the whole family.

Moms that take care of themselves are also healthier.

When your kids are sick, you take them to the doctor. When moms are sick, they tough it out and ignore their pain. You need to take care of yourself so you can take care of your kids. I'm a work in progress in this area; I don't see the doctor as often as I should.

Moms set examples, even when they are unaware of it.

Have you ever caught your kids role playing you? It can be pretty or ugly depending on the circumstances. Guess what moms; your kids are learning what a mom's role is by watching you. Do you want your daughter to grow up thinking that moms can't take time for themselves? So when she becomes a mom she won't take any time for herself? Do you want to teach your son that his wife should stop being her own person and only live to take care of her family? Yeah, I didn't think so either.

So do me a favor and take a few minutes for yourself today. Read a book, take a bath, pour a glass of wine, or if you're feeling froggy do all three. You'll thank yourself in the morning.

stock photo : Woman getting spa treatment outdoor


  1. This is soo true...I forget this and hubby has to remind me to take some time away because I tend to get snappy and ugly when I don't get some away time...I don't even need much time but sometimes it's hard to just get some alone time - even 5 min helps...

  2. Love this Allison!! You are so right! One of these days, I'll be taking that retreat too!

  3. I hate it when women do that. I wonder if those ladies are ever happy. I mean, really and truly happy?

    My hubby says, a happy wife is a sexy wife! What you said is true too. A happy wife makes for a happy home!

  4. Kudos to you for taking time for yourself. I will remember this advice when I have kids.

  5. This is so true! I am very good at taking time for myself by working out or time with friends but you hit the nail on the head when you say that a lot of women feel guilty! I'm so glad I stopped by your blog! #throwbackthursdayslinkup


  6. I completely agree! My kids are now teenagers, but I remember when they were little I would go away once a year either by myself or with friends for the weekend. I felt so renewed. Don't feel guilty! Thanks for sharing on #throwbackthursday linkup!

  7. I am the first to admit that I need some mommy time. My hubby and I have a nice tradeoff where we each get one night off of parenting duty to just do what we want. It doesn't have to be much, just a trip to the library, Target or the grocery store without the little guys can be refreshing. Though I much enjoy the book club meetings with my girflriends too :) Thanks for sharing with #throwbackthursdaylinkup and hope you join us again tomorrow!


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