Aug 27, 2013

Why I'm not sad about school starting

I keep seeing the posts all over Facebook and blogs with parents crying over their child growing up and starting Kindergarten, or a new school year and how they aren't ready for their kids' next step. You've seen them too, unless you've been living offline for that last few weeks. Next week my oldest is starting Kindergarten and my twins are going to preschool. But you're not going to catch me getting sad and saying I don't want them to grow up.

Bye Bye Summer


It's not because I'm cold or because I'm looking forward to expansive me time. You know since two hours a day on Tuesday and Thursday isn't exactly a block of time worth throwing a party over. I've come to realize that the saddest thing in life is having a child not live long enough to experience the next milestone. Two funerals in a very short time span drove that painful point home to me.

You see I've watched two families grieve over the loss of a child this year. It's heart breaking. There are no words to describe the pain. And with school starting I've been thinking about the classrooms with two people missing from them.

And while it's a little hard thinking about my daughter going to Kindergarten all day this year, I know that she's ready. And sending my twins to two different preschools has its own challenges, but deep down I know that it's what they need and that they are more than ready. They are so excited about starting school! As a former teacher, I know how much love I poured into my students and that my kids will be loved by their teachers too. It's pretty awesome that my kids are gaining an adult to guide and teach them new things.

Maybe they can start with don't pick your nose. I'm failing in this area.


And so I'm going to stop saying things like "I just want to freeze time" or "where is the pause button?" Because in reality the only way to freeze time or hit the pause button on our kids growing up is death.

While I know that's not what we mean when we say those phrases, it is the sad reality of them.

So let us all rejoice in our children doing exactly what they should; living another day and starting a new adventure.

And it's OK to shed a tear on the first day of school regardless of their age; it is a big moment in life. If I can cry during a sappy movie, I can cry on the first day of school.



And then I'll go grab a coffee and enjoy those sweet four hours of freedom a week.

17 comments:

  1. Thank you for the eye opener! I love the quote on the last photo with your children.

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  2. I sort of feel the same way. I LOVE my freedom. LOVE. But I also have begun to panic over how fast my kids are growing. I mean, my son is in MIDDLE SCHOOL and this frightens me. My daughter is in FIRST GRADE. Ack! But yes. I do enjoy my peace.

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  3. Wow, you have such a good point! I was one of the sappy moms. My daughter is a senior this year and turned 18 in June, it just all went by too fast. So now I tell moms don't blink because the years fly by.

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    1. It does go by so fast and my oldest is only 5 so I can only imagine what it would feel like with an 18 year old.

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  4. Allison, I love this perspective! I'm nowhere close to being a mother, but I always find myself being SAD when it comes to new milestones. I have trouble with living in the present. This is a great reminder to do just that.

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  5. Wow, what a true post! I've never thought of it this way but you're so right. Children growing up is a blessing and we sound in no way wish for it to stop.

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    1. Thank you. I never thought about it that way until this year. I don't think it's something that we think about until we step back and look at it with a different perspective.

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  6. You are so right, my mom always says that we should enjoy each stage and the chance to see our kids into the next one because not everyone gets that opportunity. Really lovely post.

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  7. I was always excited to watch my kids reach the next milestone. I get sappy about some things but sending them to school isn't one of them!

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    1. I got a misty when I dropped her off today for her testing. I couldn't believe how grown up she looked and she walked in like she owned the place. I kept it together though. We'll see how the first day goes.

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  8. Such a powerful reminder. As much as the years feel like they fly by and I can't believe how big my boys are getting, I'm very thankful that they are growing.

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  9. my daughter and I were both excited for her to start school. She is so smart and eager to learn that its best for her to be in school and it makes me happy to see her growing!

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  10. Beautiful post, Allison. I agree entirely. Congratulations on your children's milestones this year. <3

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  12. I am never free, 2 teens and a preschooler :) I agree I feel that the days fly even faster when the kids are back in school. This may sound weird but I think I get a tad more sleep :)

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  13. You really wrote this very well..,they do have to grow and experience life and a few tears might be shed but such is life. Enjoy that coffee!

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  14. Loved this post and loved your perspective. Praying for the families who lost their little ones! I'll be holding mine a little closer(even though they're grown), lol! Yes to what you said..."so let us all rejoice in our children doing exactly what they should; living another day and starting a new adventure"...so true, so true! Thanks for sharing and thanks so much for linking up!! Have a lovely week!

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