Dec 10, 2013

On the importance of family dinner

All the experts agree, family dinner is important. The experts say that eating a meal together as a family makes your kids healthier, smarter, and less likely to try drugs or alcohol. Basically if you don't do it you suck as a parent. No pressure right? We eat dinner together as a family 5-6 nights since we take a night off at least once a week for our date night at home, But I don't think our family meals are very successful some nights.

Last night I spent 45 minutes preparing a wonderful mostly healthy meal. On tap was black pepper chicken over rice. This was the first time I tried making this meal so I knew it would go over one of two ways; down in flames or a huge hit. I knew since it involved chicken my oldest and pickiest eater would need extra vegetables since she won't even go near a chicken nugget let alone stir fry chicken. I plate the extra veggies for her and the meal begins.

Isabella is refusing to even try a single bite of chicken. (My rule is to try one bite as tiny as my mood will allow in the moment.)

Mark complains that the sauce tastes yucky.

Molly eats the chicken and declares is delicious.

Molly becomes my favorite child.

Isabella finally eats a bit of chicken and promptly spits it out and runs for a napkin which she uses to clean her tongue. Clearly drinking milk just will not do.

Molly complains that the rice is weird, she is no longer my favorite child. Mark is pretty quiet eating his rice and veggies so he is now my favorite.

Now Isabella is refusing to eat the rice since Molly said it was yucky. You know that rice that was previously so good that she asked for a second helping.

Mark stands up in his chair and starts dancing.

We nicely ask him to sit down.

Now the girls are standing and dancing in their chairs.

Brett is yelling at the kids to sit down.

Molly starts crying since daddy yelled at her. Which makes all the kids lose it and start crying.

The kids decide that they're done eating even though they didn't eat very much. We take their food and eat it. Those kids were crazy, the dinner was delicious! In the midst of this complaining about dinner we refill milks, serve seconds, and ask them to lower their voices more times than I can count. For some reason my kids never need milk or more food at the same time causing us to constantly pause our eating.

Yep just another quality family dinner in the Bonar house. Somehow I don't think this is what the experts had in mind when they talk about a family dinner. Tonight I plan on serving a meal my kids love so we don't have 2 bad nights in a row. But seriously, I don't see how nights like this are helping my kids be better people.

However, I do see the correlation between dinnertime with children and wine consumption.


  1. Haha! I so get this. We try to have dinner as a family as much as possible, but sometimes it seems like it's just a fight to get the kids to eat. I just hope that it gets more pleasant as the kids get older!

  2. Our family dinners usually involve our 2.5 year old son coming to the table, saying prayers with us, and then asking to be excused. I swear the boy nearly never eats dinner. Ugh.

  3. I'm so glad it's not just me. Honestly, I don't want to eat dinner at the table with my family. I'd like to eat in a corner, alone, and have one meal alone where I don't have someone trying to steal my food even when they have the exact same thing. :-P

  4. Luckily my daughter is 21 months old and the second one is still baking away - so we don't have these shenanagins YET but I totally know what you mean. I think back to family dinners during high school and how I HATED them, resented my parents for making us sit down together when I'd rather be out with my friends. But now, as an adult, the veil has lifted and I have some fond memories (because the most ridiculous fights happened during that time that end up being pretty funny now).

    1. i never thought about it that way. I bet one day they will appreciate our family dinners, I know I do.


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