Sep 15, 2014

10 Things I'll Never Apologize For

I believe one of the best parts about getting older is gaining confidence in yourself. When I was in my 20's and I heard that someone didn't like me I was shattered, now I could care less. I've learned that trying to change who you are just to please other people only makes you miserable. Now I'm all for changing to make yourself happy. I'm only against doing it for someone else.

Yes, life is a little easier in your 30's and since I'm starting the downward turn toward my 40's I'm convinced that they will be even better. See I'm an optimist. I see the glass as half full, but either way there's always room for more wine!

In the last month I've read countless posts where mothers apologized for all the areas that they are failing and begged them to stop in my head. Seriously ladies, it's OK to be human. Just look at Martha Stuart, she aimed for perfection and went to jail. Perhaps it's time to let go of the idea of perfection.

Yes we should apologize for making mistakes, like yelling at our kids. But not sending in the perfect bento lunch is not something to apologize over. I started thinking about the things I'll never apologize for. These are the things that are my weakness and strengths, the core of my personality, quirks, and beliefs that make me Allison. I think it's time we decide as women to stop apologizing so much!

I will never apologize for parenting in the way that aligns with my faith, morals, and feels best for me. While I'm well aware that some people view parenting as a reality show competition and they are one of the judges, but I am not getting wrapped up in their drama. I make decisions based on my education, faith, experiences, background, morals, gut instinct, what annoys me in other children, what annoys me in my children, what worked in the past, and what didn't. I'm learning on the job just like everyone else. It's not a #momfail, it's an opportunity to learn and do better next time.

I will never apologize for being stupid excited over the leaves changing colors. Living where the leaves change colors is new for me and I love it!

Or for pinning 30 pumpkin recipes in under an hour. I know it's annoying to other pinners but I was on a roll last night! Yes I made pumpkindoodles for dessert last night after drooling over them. Yes I ate too many. And lastly, yes they were amazing!

I will never apologize for making my relationship with my husband a priority. Yes I am a mother. Yes I chose to bring these wonderful people into the world that suck the energy out of me better than any vacuum. But I will always make spending time with my husband a top priority. We do date night at home most often since we can't afford a sitter every week. Yes, we are taking a 10 year anniversary trip alone. Without the kids! (Gasp!)

I strongly believe that husbands and wives need to keep dating, especially after they have kids. The marriage is the most important relationship in the family. Our spouses need our love and attention too. Newsflash the kids are going to leave you one day, hopefully your spouse will not.

I will never apologize for loving the Texans. I don't care how childish or stupid some people think football is I love it! I'm a Texan, born and raised. You just cannot take the football out of me. Public service announcement - the Cowboys suck.

I will never apologize for feeding my kids organic carrots at lunch and then being too tired to cook dinner so we hit McDonald's. I try my best to cook dinner every night but I'm not above pizza or the drive thru.My kids will be fine, I promise.

I will never apologize for letting my kids dress themselves. They have their own little quirky personalities and I happen to love their wacky outfits. Besides my kids don't like matching their socks which makes laundry a little easier for mommy.

I will never apologize for wearing makeup every day. Again I'm from Texas; there are some things you just hold onto. But I promise to never wear makeup to the gym in the morning.

I will never apologize for keeping an organized home. I married a wonderful man who has OCD and cannot stand clutter. Translation he is a great organizer and taught the kids how to perfectly put their toys away. I can take no credit for it. I also get in trouble with the kids sometimes for putting things away wrong since I don't know the system after it changes. Growing up I was horribly unorganized but Brett has taught me many tricks and now I actually like cleaning out closets and purging the house. Past Allison surely thinks I'm crazy.

I'll Never Apologize for Advocating for my Kids. During my first visit with the neurologist, he told me that I need to find my voice and make it loud since no one would ever fight for my son. Five years later I understand that wisdom in ways I never thought possible. I've learned to advocate for all my kids in a way that makes me heard without being rude. Be prepared for a fight if I don't agree with the plan. Once I brought a lawyer, don't mess with my kid.

There you have it, 10 things that I'll never apologize for doing or being. What is something you will never apologize for?


  1. I love this! I'm tired of seeing all the apologies. Confidence is so much better. :)

    I'm not apologizing for making my marriage a priority, either. I love my kids so much, but it's important for Hubs and me to have a strong marriage- and that sometimes means we take time for us away from the kids.

    1. Thank you! I find myself on my soap box often when I hear people say there will be time for their spouse later when the kids are grown up. Don't wait, make the time now.

  2. I'll never apologize for taking time in my day to read my favorite blogs. I have learned so much from fellow bloggers :)

    1. That's a good one! I agree, I've learned from bloggers and made some great connections too.


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