Oct 8, 2014

10 Things that Changed in 10 Years of Marriage

A decade sounds like a long time, especially if you're referring to the length of time you've been married. My husband and I celebrated 10 years of marriage last week with a wonderful trip to Myrtle Beach. We got four luxurious days on the beach without our kids.

It was fabulous!

While we were there we were laughing about how different our lives were 10 years down the road. I will admit that I have no idea where we will be in 10 years from now. We are not the type of people who sit still and don't make changes so I highly doubt we will be in the same place in 10 years. While that would have scared me as a newlywed, I think it's fun and exciting now.

There are many aspects of my life that I wouldn't have seen coming in a million years 10 years ago. My husband and I have grown and changed in many ways over the years. Ten years ago Brett and Allison wouldn't recognize the life we have now. Here are some of the ways we have changed over the years.

1. Ten years ago we didn't have children. They were a distant thought to our life plan. You want to know what wasn't in the plan? Infertility and miscarriage (sss). Neither was Cerebral Palsy or Vitiligo. These things are all parts of my life now and completely normal to me. I'm not sure when that happened.

2. When we got married, I was a general manager for a chain of retail stores. In the decade since we were married I went to grad school and taught Elementary school and then quit to be a stay at home mom, and later a blogger. Say what? Just so you know, I didn't even know what a blogger was when I got married. So yes, big career changes for me.

3. My husband likes to compete with me in the career department for most changes. He was a journeyman electrician when we got married. Months after our wedding he started his own business. Then we lost the business and we went back to being a journeyman for someone else. (Which made me insanely proud and other people judgmental who still need a punch to the throat.) Next he lost that job and took a really crappy one before landing his current position as a Project Manager for an electrical company. I think he wins for the most career changes.

4. We live in North Carolina now. Never in a million years would I have guessed that we would leave Las Vegas. Never! But after losing our business we needed a change and Raleigh was exactly the change we needed. I'm officially an East Coast girl now.

We get seasons here, even snow which is fun until it sucks.

5. We left the Lutheran Church. This may not seem like a big deal to some people, but it was a big deal for me. Oddly enough, leaving the church I was raised in brought me closer to God. We found an amazing church in Las Vegas that we loved after the switch. Leaving our church was one of the hardest parts of moving.

6. We eat Vegetarian several times a week. My meat loving, sushi is bait, newlywed husband now loves to eat vegetarian and sushi. Seriously past Brett probably wonders where his balls are right now. Don't worry past Brett, they're still there.

7. Even before we moved we had completely different friends than we when were first married. Between kids, career changes, and Las Vegas being such a transient town, things change.

8. I will actually drink a glass of white wine now. Don't get me wrong red is still the best way to go, but I will drink a glass of white with friends.

9. Present Allison actually goes to the gym, and she likes it! Past Allison went to get fit or the wedding and then stopped going for the next 5 years. Now I can't imagine not exercising on a regular basis.

10. Brett has finally come out of his shell and he's social. He was so painfully shy when we met and never talked to people until he got to know them better. No one who meets him now would believe that.

When I look at our wedding pictures I see two kids who have no idea what they are getting into. But I think that's great. We might have chickened out if someone had read our futures.

I love that we have grown and changed so much as individuals. I would hate to think that I would still be the same person that I was at 25. Since we changed and grew together it's brought us closer together.

And that friends is how you get to 10 years of happy marriage, even when the road gets so rough it disappears.


  1. What a beautiful post that describes your journey together as a couple. Happy Anniversary :)

  2. So much changes, doesn't it? We made a lot of moves and career changes, too.

    So nice that you got to get away for your anniversary! Something we definitely didn't think about when we first got married was how much planning it would take to be able to get away!

    1. It takes so much planning. We had to arrange for his parents to fly in from California to watch the kids for us. It will probably be a few years before we get away again.

  3. Congrats on 10 years, it's such a huge milestone!


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