Oct 22, 2014

How Do You Balance Your Time Between Multiple Kids

If you have more than one child you know this problem all too well;

I need to be in two places at the same time. 

Perhaps your kids have soccer games at the same time or both kids have a birthday party to attend and you can't quite swing the drop off times.

For me this dilemma occurred last week when Isabella's teacher asked for volunteers for the Halloween party the same day the flyer came home from Molly's school that her Halloween parade is at the same time. Of course they go to different schools so popping in on the parade is not an option.

What's a mom to do? One kid is going to miss out and Daddy cannot leave work that day to split the duties with me.

There is a balancing act to parenting when you have more than one child. One that I'm pretty good at it most of the time. But it's getting harder as the kids are getting older. I know that these situations will pop up more often. Especially next year when they're all in school full time.

Here are some of the things my husband and I do to make sure our kids get individual attention.

I limit the kids' activities. I know that this is a hot button issue based on the blog post I wrote about it but this works for our family. By limiting our kids' activities, we have more unscheduled time which allows my husband and I plan more dates with our kids.

This year everyone is doing dance. Isabella's skirt cracks me up.

I intentionally schedule one on one time with each kid to get some alone time with them. We call them dates and my kids love them. Anything can be a date. I normally plan them but occasionally I let the kids pick what we do. Brett is more flexible and he lets the kids plan the dates most of the time.

We do kid of the day. I got this from a triplet mom and it's pure genius.  The kid of the day gets specific privileges and decisions to make for the group. Now each child has a day to sit by the faucet in the bathtub and decide what we are having for lunch.

But none of these tactics are going to help me be in two places at once. Instead I made a compromise with the kids. I helped out today in Molly's classroom for the fair and next week I'll be in Isabella's classroom for the Halloween party. It was an easy sell for Molly. She said she would rather have me in the classroom than in the hallway watching the parade.

Thank goodness because I didn't have any other ideas. 

How Do You Balance Your Time Between Multiple Kids?


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